Thursday, June 14, 2018

'Eye Love You Day' Recap

Bringing Up Bates "Eye Love You Day"

  • Kelly is in bed recovering from vision correction surgery, so Carlin is in charge of homeschooling, and she runs a tight ship. She wakes the kids up earlier than usual, and the ones who won’t get out of bed get water sprinkled on their faces. “Half the time I’m not awake until she dumps the water on me,” admits Jackson.
  • Gil loves pampering his wife, saying that he finally has her all to himself. Michael comes down from Chicago to cook and help with the children.
  • One week after her surgery, Kelly is back in the swing of things. It’s time to start planning for I Love You Day (Bates Valentine’s Day). The theme is Growing Old Together, and the Bates mom is awarding a monetary prize to those with the best costumes. The goal of the theme is to honor Gil’s parent’s (Papa Bill and Mama Jane) and Kelly’s mom and new stepfather (Meema and Tom), as well as to express a hope that Gil and Kelly have for their married children. “That was all in fun, but at the same time, my prayer is [that] they will be able to grow old together,” says Kelly.
  • Kelly and some of the kids go to Karm Thrift Store to find outfits for the party. “It was neat to see how everybody kind of envisioned what an older person dresses like,” says Erin.
  • While searching for a costume, Kelly ends up finding something that she wants to wear on a regular day. Her kids poke fun at her, but she doesn't mind. “I am older,” says Kelly, laughing. “I’m not going to apologize.”
  • “This is our biggest family holiday,” says Erin. The Websters arrive, and the older girls help the little kids make gifts, like bath scrub and body wash, to give to family members (in addition to the big gift exchange). While they work, Erin and Alyssa discuss their pregnancies. Erin says she “feels so successful” to be in her third trimester, while Alyssa says she is “so done.”
  • The topic turns to Carlin’s relationship and possible engagement. She and Evan have been talking about timing. “As an older sister, it’s just really sweet to watch your younger sister go through a relationship,” says Erin.
  • “Don’t talk about getting married,” cautions Gil. “We done got enough people married.” “Dad, you shouldn’t have had so many girls!” replies Alyssa.
  • “I tell you, I can’t give away the boys, but everybody wants to get the girls,” says Gil.
  • The night before the big celebration, the Websters and Paines decorate a big table at a local lakeside restaurant before the couples (both married and courting, including the grandparents), arrive. “This is not just any old date at the fast food,” says Kelly. “This is special.”
  • “They’re excluding us from a lot of good fun and food,” says Lawson. “So this must change.” He arrives at the dinner in a suit, and Kelly tells him he is only welcome if he has “got a girl.”
  • “Well I actually did bring somebody special here that I wanted to introduce you all too,” says Lawson. “You did what?!” exclaims Gil.
  • Out comes Nathan, wearing a nightgown, curlers, and a gray wig. The room erupts in laughter. “Those two boys, it’s amazing what they’ll do to come to a good dinner,” says Gil, chuckling. “If he was dating somebody, this mama would know it,” states Kelly.
  • During dinner, everyone shares their first impression of their significant other. Kelly was attracted to Gil’s athleticism and his “strut.” “Let’s just say he strutted his feathers, and this bird came running,” says Kelly.
  • “I remember thinking, the guy that gets to marry [Michael] is going to be a very blessed guy, and I didn’t think I had a chance, but I’m the blessed guy,” shares Brandon.
  • The next day, everyone arrives at the big house for the main celebration. Erin, Chad, Carlin, and Evan go all out. For contrast, the grandparents come dressed like young people.
  • The winners of the costume contest are Evan (best adult male costume), Carlin (best adult female costume), Erin and Chad (best dressed couple), and Judson (best child costume).
  • After a few games, it’s time for the gift exchange. “Honestly, the best thing about I Love You Day…is watching the other people open the gifts that you got them,” says Tori.
  • Jackson’s gift for Katie is a pizza (delivered during the gift exchange), Ramen noodles, and a pair of shoes. Katie is thrilled, although she is only able to eat one piece of pizza before her siblings devour the rest.

36 comments:

  1. I wish i could have watched it....sounds like alota of fun!

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  2. Wow - great show, very funny, lots of fun to watch ! The only thing wrong was those boys showing up at the couples dinner ???? No, No, No - not till you have a girl - or it just is not special. They should have been shown the door. Some things you have to earn & follow the rules, like all the other couples. The older boys should have done something special for the other kids at home. After this show I really think we will see engagements & weddings soon !!

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    1. It’s not fair for the others to exclude them just because they haven’t found someone. Sometimes it’s not that simple to just “find a girl”, especially if you’re not looking for just a girl to date, but your partner for life. They shouldn’t be punished for not finding the love of their lives yet. Plus you could tell they were joking around

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    2. But the couples dinner was NOT the only thing the Bates did to celebrate Valentine's Day. If it had been, I'd agree. But everyone was invited to the main event (the one where they dressed as old people), old and young, married, courting and single.

      I am single and I personally wouldn't want to crash a couples only event, I'd just feel bummed to see people so happily in love while I don't have anyone. Not even sure Lawson and Nathan would have bothered if not for the show.

      I know it's the trend these days to include everyone and everything to avoid being "exclusive" but that's the kind of thinking that results in "participation trophies" and schools abolishing the Dean's list or valedictorian honors.

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    3. If they included the older singles in the dinner, who would babysit the younger kids?

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  3. Did Nathan and Lawson get to eat dinner with the couples? LOL.

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  4. Okay I personally found Nathan in drag to be hilarious but I think this will be controversial among the fans. No comments posted yet as I type this, but I predict some will think Nathan sinned by wearing a woman's clothes even for a joke, while others will find the joke offensive towards the LGBT community.

    As for the old person costumes, I recall they were also controversial when the pics were posted before. I wasn't quite offended though I did cringe when Evan (or was that Chad) mentioned a diaper. It was surreal because the young couples were looking older, but acting more like adolescents in their antics than grown adults.

    On the other hand it seems the actual senior citizens there weren't offended at all, and I liked the gift exchange by lot, everyone gets a chance to give and receive, without winding up with a mountain of stuff at the end.

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    1. I ‘m sure they meant it in fun, perhaps was the idea of the production crew. The reality is, they won’t think there’s anything the least bit funny when an elderly loved one, or themselves, is at the point of relying on adult diapers and someone else to change them.

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    2. My dad is getting more up there in age and jokes about diaper wearing all the time, I don’t think any of the seniors would be offended by it๐Ÿ˜‚

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    3. I thought it was poor taste that Evan took an oxygen tank. I don’t think it’s a fun old people prop, people use it to breathe and to stay alive. I think he should’ve sticked to the clothes and hair

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    4. I thought the theme was in poor taste. I have seen too many retirement skits, older birthday skits that included all the props mentioned above and acting out a scene where an older person falls and says “ help me, I can’t get up!” I wanted to walk out and felt the same way watching this part of the show. It felt like an Old people “Roast”.

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  5. Carlin dumping water on her siblings face? Family members excluded from Valentines Day? Hmm...tell me why this family is so sweet and fun??

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    1. They're the kind of family that jokes around all the time, but they're also really close. Maybe that's just how they have fun, and you're projecting your own viewpoint on them. And no one was excluded from Valentine's Day - that's what their elaborate "I Love You Day" celebration is about - everyone is included.

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    2. You didn't actually watch the episode, did you? Carlin gave the boys a chance to get up before she dumped the water on them (and it wasn't that much water, either). And nobody was excluded from Valentine's Day. They had a couples' dinner the night before, but everyone was included in the large Valentine's Day celebration.

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  6. I felt bad for Katie. She was so thrilled with her pizza and she only got one piece. I'm sure she would say she didn't mind sharing, but I thought it was rude of the others to take her gift for themselves.

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    1. I did, too. So grabby and greedy.

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    2. She had a smile on her face when they were eating the pizza. Her body language showed that she was relaxed and enjoying herself, not upset. She did also receive a couple of other things besides the pizza as well.

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    3. I thought it was rude too - not just to Katie, but also to Jackson. He bought the gift.

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    4. It reminded me of when Alyssa had Allie Jane's first birthday party and was making chocolate dipped strawberries. They guys kept eating them all before Alyssa's other guests arrived, even when she kept asking (telling) them to stop. They ignored the fact that other people besides them were attending who might Alyssa might want to be a good hostess for. That was rude and disrespectful even if it was their sibling.

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    5. Add me to the list of those who thought Katie’s siblings, grabbing Katie’s pizza, was rude and thoughtless. I couldn’t believe what I was watching. Poor Katie.

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  7. What a fun episode!

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  8. Maybe showing up at the couples’ dinner wasn’t the best idea, but couples only things can sometimes be a little rough on us singles. This past Valentines Day I wanted to bless a married friend and offered to babysit their children so they could go out for supper. They blessed me in return by deciding to stay home and invite me for supper instead. God bless married friends who care for singles!

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    1. Aw, that's so sweet that they did that for you! Truly thoughtful.

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    2. Yes! Married couples like that are very rare, unfortunately.

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  9. I noticed that on last night's show they did not show much of Alyssa's girls? I did only watch the last half so not sure if they were shown in the first part. There was a scene at the Party where you cold see Kelly bend down to kiss Ali, but we could not see Ali? Is that done on purpose?

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  10. Lawson is so dreamy

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    1. Yup...I bet he totally has a girlfriend and parties!

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  11. I wish You would share the recipes of the goodies you all made for the married couples for "I love you day". They look like they would make nice home made gifts for anyone! I love your family and your show. Your love of God and family is truly inspiring.

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  12. Carlin wins best dressed girl as does Evan for best dressed male , but they don't get best dressed couple ??

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  13. Time 9:20AM Sat 6/16
    Anonymous How is it offensive that a guy wears women's clothes! A lot of male actors wore women's clothes on TV & Movies to me can't be offensive to the LGBT community. I support that community. I don't find It offensive that Tyler Perry wears women's clothes to play a fictional female character I found It funny. Lawson did It as a joke not offensive to the LGBT community.

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    1. Neddy.. the Bates and Duggars DO NOT support LGBT persons...at all. For Nathan to then dress as a woman in mockery is offensive knowing their stance.

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    2. Time 7:27AM Mon 6/18
      I don't found that mockery he did It as a joke. Unless the LGBT community saw this episode found It offensive yes they would say something so far they have not. Yes I already know they dont support LGBT I support them. Iam playing a future president of a retelling of Mary Poppins which Iam doing for a play for a acting workshop called Dreamstreet a workshop for actors who are grownups who has disabilities like me. So far the like I said the community did notean this episode. I don't found It offensive Also I dont found It offensive how some men dress in drag. All male actors been doing this for years never heard of the LGBT community attacking them. No It's not a mockery to me maybe to them. I love both families sure I don't stand for what they believe but they are great families. Nathan was having his fun.

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    3. People need to lighten up. Many people, even who do not approve of LGBT, understand what is intended as a joke. No one seems to have a sense of humor any more.

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  14. Did anyone happen to catch the girl in one of the background shots? Not sure who she was. Not a Bates family member. One the Bates boys courting???

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    1. Looked like chads sister to me.

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