For the second time, Layla Rae Stewart is home from the hospital. The family of three was discharged a few days after birth, only to be readmitted due to Layla's jaundice. Today, Layla is one week old and is hopefully home for good. (The photo below was taken after the Stewarts returned home for the first time.)
After leaving the hospital, the new parents stopped by Carlin's parents' house to show off their new addition to the younger Bates siblings who had not yet met her. The hospital had a minimum age requirement for visitors due to flu season.
Photo courtesy of Carlin and Evan Stewart
After leaving the hospital, the new parents stopped by Carlin's parents' house to show off their new addition to the younger Bates siblings who had not yet met her. The hospital had a minimum age requirement for visitors due to flu season.
Evan Stewart, Carlin Stewart, Layla Stewart
Photo courtesy of Carlin and Evan Stewart
congratulations to you both, she is a beauty for sure, truly blessed,.
ReplyDeleteGlad that Layla Rae has left the hospital.Welcome Home Layla Rae. God Bless.
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Why were they exposing their newborn --a premature, fragile newborn--to young children, if the hospital advised against it? There are many Bates (and Bates cousins) under the age of 12. If it were my first child, I wouldn't take such chances just to "show off" my baby.
ReplyDeleteThe hospital had to set the restrictions due to a flu bug among children, but that doesn’t mean that the Bates children were affected. I highly doubt she would’ve brought the baby to her siblings if they had been sick
DeleteI'm sure if any of the younger kids were sick Him and Kelly would have suggested they not stop by. All hospitals have some type of regulation when it comes to the winter months/flu season. Some hospitals it's an age limit, one by me is number of people who can visit at a time.
DeleteI agree. Wouldn't do it with my second, or third, or fourth (etc.) either.
DeleteIf I were Layla's mom, I would have taken her straight home from the hospital. This poor baby has been under stress from having a jaundice condition, treatment in a hospital setting with special lights, eye protection, staff intervention, and medical (blood) testing. She's been through a lot and then to put her through the additional stress of relatives and their home environment is asking too much of this new baby girl. Mommy and Daddy needed to wait a while before putting her under any more stress in her short life.
Deletei think you misunderstood. the hospital didnt advise against her bringing the baby out, they chose not to let certain people in. unless its is specifically a 'maternity' hospital, hospitals are full of sick people. these rules are in place to protect the children from picking up something in hospital as well as bringing it in. as an adult, you should have enough antibodies to fight off most illnesses, but children do not. they are still being vaccinated. who knows what the person in the next room is there for?
DeleteGood thing Carlin and Evan didn't have older children then , huh ?
DeleteAbsolutely! That baby needed a quiet room, time with mom, nursing, rest, lullabies, maybe soft music. It had been under a huge stress. It is hard for even adults to be in the hospital. The baby did not need the rough and tumble fun of the Bates household, being held by lots of people, listening to all the excited exclamations, etc. They should have waited on that.
DeleteWhen there are older children in the home, of course there is some risk of passing on illness. That is unavoidable (though some parents send older kids to grandmas for a few days). However, that is unavoidable risk. Going to the big house was an avoidable risk, and an unnecessary one as well.
DeleteHow many babies have been born in this family? They are smart enough to keep sick children away, not let the children touch her, etc. She may have stayed in her carrier the whole time if she were asleep, they may have been in there for five minutes, and so on. Such sanctimony and mommy shaming!
DeleteAnon 5:21. The rules are not in place to protect visiting children! If that were the case, the hospital would ban the elderly and anyone who was immuno-compromised. The rules are in place to protect the hospital from legal liability, in case one of the sick or newly born become ill from a visitor. Carlin and Even deliberately exposed their fragile newborn to the 20+ people in the noisy Bates home, including (most likely) small children. She needs to learn to put her baby's needs first.
DeleteI would call this people educating each other, not “mommy shaming”
DeleteIf you count the parents and all the unmarrieds, that is 14 people, and that's only if all of them, including the adult singles, were all home at the time. Since we don't know any details (Did they make the kids look at a distance? Did they stay only briefly?), it makes more sense not to pass judgement. There weren't even necessarily any small children there. We don't know. The situation could have been much more benign than is being portrayed here by comments. But refraining from imagining the worst and assuming the best isn't as much fun, is it?
DeleteCarlin and Evan have to learn to put their baby's interests first.
Delete5:00, mom shaming is "Criticizing or degrading a mother for her parenting choices because they differ from the choices the shamer would make." That is exactly what these comments are doing.
DeleteIf people are concerned about the babies health and safety it doesn’t mean it’s mom shaming. Babies aren’t supposed to be in a crowd during flu season and giving people that advice could be helpful in case they don’t know. The flu can be deadly
Delete8:11, here's the thing, though. The commenters that are saying, "I would never" and "they should" are coming across as better-than-thou and judging. We do NOT know how that visit was conducted. They could have kept the baby in the carrier, let the kids have a quick peek, and left a few minutes later. Everyone is just assuming how it happened and that it was obviously a dangerous choice, when that may or may not be the case. If one is just educating, they can make it general, without painting the parents as immature, etc.
DeleteKelly has had 19 babies. Why is no one criticizing her for letting her grandbaby go into such a dangerous situation?
DeleteOk here’s some more education, the flu particles in the air can travel at least six feet, and the person be contagious 24 hours before even having symptoms. So the brand new baby, even if left in a carrier, is at risk in a crowd during flu season. I think many people were surprised by this choice Carlin made. Perhaps that’s why people are coming across as judge mental. This is just the beginning of the parents responsibility to put the well-being of the child before their own wishes.
DeleteSo glad to hear baby Layla is back home.
ReplyDeleteGlad to hear Layla is back home hopefully for good. God watched over this precious baby girl!
ReplyDeleteGood to hear. Beauitful little family. Leadabeth
ReplyDeleteSo happy for your little family! Bless you all.
ReplyDeleteWelcome home Layla!
ReplyDeleteMy Cousins last name is Stewart too.
Thats great she is back home.
ReplyDeleteThank God that she's home,God bless this family.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations! I'm glad Layla's well & back home. My youngest God-daughter had jaundice too and had to stay a week after birth in hospital. She had no issues after & was a healthy child & will be 20yrs next month & is currently in college & is still healthy, thank God. I Pray & believe that Layla will be fine also.
ReplyDeleteAs a registered nurse I can tell you that you can be contagious and spread the flu bug a day before having any symptoms. It is a bad idea to expose a newborn to so many people, family or not. I can also tell you that hospitals do not automatically put visitor restrictions in place during flu season unless it has been determined that the circulating flu strain is quite high in the community. The flu season is serious with many deaths each year, and as such needs to be taken seriously. Crowds are no place for a newborn. A new life is too special to take any risk
ReplyDelete"No, the baby's just getting out of the hospital, Mom, after being poked and prodded and recovering from jaundice. Much as I'd like to show her off, I think she'd be happier coming home, nursing and sleeping. She's not ready for all the noise and craziness of our family--give us a few days. There's plenty of time!"
ReplyDeleteI doubt Jud, Callie and the others small ones were insisting on an immediate visit. Layla is their 10th niece. I'm sure they could wait. The baby should have been brought home.
ReplyDeleteIf I'd been lying for days in a bassette with a giant plastic bandage over my eyes, under special lights, feeling ill, being handled by strangers and having my blood drawn. . . and I was finally released. . . the last thing I'd want to do would be to visit the under-12 Bates at the big house.
ReplyDeleteI don't think babies prioritize things like that. The baby could have been sleeping while they were there for all we know.
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